Realisation is Key to Change

It gets to a time in everyone’s life when you realise you are too old for some things you do everyday and some thoughts you allow to occupy your mind, the people you allow to be in your life, the things you allow to affect you, your reaction to situations… The only difference in individuals is when we come to this realisation.

The sad part of this is that, most people come to this realisation very late in their life.

A friend told me recently, “the difference between us and them is that we are making an effort to be better.”
While I agree with him, the main difference is not the effort, it is rather the realisation. If you don’t realise there is a need to change, you can’t make an effort to change.

There’s going to be a time when you listen to yourself speak and think, “what the hell is wrong with me?” Or you think about going to a place you used to enjoy going and think, “to what end? what’s this going to add to my life?” Or you’re about to react to a situation and think, “nah, that’s a waste of my time.” Or even, you hear someone’s opinion and while it’s not the same with what you believe you don’t think the person stupid before trying to see where they are coming from.

But that can only happen after you SEE a need for change.

Everyone knows that change is constant; what most people ignore is that it doesn’t matter if you know that, it doesn’t matter if you can teach it to a million people and they believe you, if you can’t see a need for it in your life, the change that will happen in you is not the one you know.

As corny as that might sound, it’s still the truth that people take for granted.

Go online. You’d be amazed at the number of life coaches there are out there. The problem however is not a lack or shortage of teachers. In fact, the problem is that there are too many of them. People who give advice but never internalise it, that’s the main problem.

From my observations, I think most people genuinely believe that knowing something automatically should make it a part of their lives. You see a very sincere and true post and you accept it as the truth. What do you after that? You immediately re-post it and share it with your friends and followers, then sit and watch as the likes and comments of ‘wows’ and ‘hmms’ flood in. Then at the end of the day, you pick up your phone and search for another true and sincere post to share.

Common, that’s not the important thing.

Internalizing it should be your priority. Put it into practice. Let it work for you.

Know it. But more importantly, realise you need it in your life. Then make it a part of you.
Only then can you begin to shed the extra irrelevant weights you’ve been holding on to.
Only then can you see that you’re too old for some things you cling to and begin to make real effort at becoming a better person.