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Why you should make plans

One major thing we tend to believe is that we have everything under control because we’ve made plans. And we think, “Now my life is under control.”

Because when we make plans, we often feel like we’ve got it all figured out and everything will work out just fine. And that simply executing them will make our lives better.

But really, does making plans guarantee us having a hitch-free ride? Are there no cosmic hindrances that could spring up at random amidst our well-composed and executable strategies, to put a halt to it or derail us?

If those exist, then maybe we don’t have as much control as we think we do. But should that make us resort to not planning and just winging it through life? I think not.

Plans give structure. Maybe with structure comes an illusion of control, but that’s not the main reason for their existence. They are meant to help us navigate through life despite the colossal fuck yous the universe has in store for us.

Plans serve as guardrails to stop us from totally going off track. That’s different from being in control. A lot of things will happen to propel us towards a desired destination or throw us off balance.

The point of planning is to ensure we don’t lose sight of where we are going. To find our balance and reorient ourselves when the storms subside.

And that’s why you and I should make plans. A proper understanding of the purpose of plans will better inform the planning process, our expectations and how to react when the plan fails.

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4 vital factors to consider when making decisions

The decisions we make determine the kind of person we are. When it comes to decision making, there is no decision too small to affect your life. From what you choose to eat for dinner or what you choose to do in your free time to your career choice and life partner. None of these decisions should be overlooked or handled with levity.

Decision making, like any other art, can be perfected, so that it comes to us easily. This is necessary if we wish to live a life on track and ordered in the domain of the purpose and goals we have set for ourselves.

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Having a voice worth hearing

​Basic exercise:

Close your eyes.
There are two people in the room with you, one on each side of you. One has a story to tell you but is quiet. The other also has a story to tell but cannot speak. Can you tell with your eyes closed (or even opened) who has a story to tell? Or who has a voice to tell it?

Chances are, no, you can’t.

In this context, A person who doesn’t speak is no different from a person who can’t speak.

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Learning To Lose

Life is not just a game, according to Jordan Peterson, it is a set of games, and the rule is never sacrifice victory across a set of games for victory in a single game.

It’s simple. Our lives are made up of series of events, and while all these events and our responses to them define the kind of life we have, no single event is our life.

The important thing is, while we are doing everything we can to make each event as successful as possible in order to richly fortify our life as a whole, there are some times when victory in a single game would significantly alter our life negatively. And such an impact might be very hard to recover from.

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What Are You Storing Up: Gold or Pyrite?

There is something about knowledge, the more you know, the more you realise how little you know, the more you want to know more.

The need to know is ever rising and with the advent of the internet, a lot of information is shoved in our faces every time we go online. Everyone has an opinion. On a particular topic you can find as much different opinions as possible, some with valid convincing points.

But that’s not all.

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